True Honesty

Matsu and Joanne have been together for quite a while. Though they are from 2 different countries and background, it has not stopped them from seeing each other.

Knowing that LDR is not easy, they made a commitment to each other  - to be truthful, honest to each other.

As time passes, different cultural background and lifestyles started to create an impact between them. Sometimes, Matsu could not agree with Joanne and vice versa. Still, they make a point to let each other know about their feelings.

Some people believe that you should not be truthfully honest with your other half. Matsu's good friend, Takashi, told him that truth can hurt a relationship and it would be good to keep some secrets.  Matsu decided to heed his advice.

Soon, Matsu started to keep his opinion to himself. He did not tell Joanne how he felt about certain issues they had. Joanne did not find anything amiss. As time passes, Matsu started to change and Joanne began to feel the difference. She tried to ask Matsu but to no avail. Then, slowly.......... the  2 of them went separate ways.

Joanne found out that Matsu was not happy about many things  during the relationship. As he did not want to hurt her, he decided not to tell her.  Joanne understood that as they were both from different cultural backgrounds and upbringing, there could be some misunderstanding and if Matsu had made the effort to be honest with her, many problems could have been solved and they could still be together!

Different people have different perspective of life. There 's no right or wrong. To me, if you made a commitment to be with someone, you jolly well keep it. Communication is very important. It can keep a relationship going, clear any misunderstanding, etc. I want to be honest and truthful to my other half. Sometimes, I agree what I say may hurt her but at least she knows that how I feel. She is not obligated to accept my view/opinion.

If I hold back being honest to her and one day she finds out, that could be detrimental to  our relationship. Should I risk it?

If others choose to keep secrets from their other halfs, so be it! To each his own.

I choose to be truthfully honest to my other half.......


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