Relationship

Had dinner with Sebastian on Friday night. The wife n son have gone back to Taiwan and he would be leaving for China next week to take up a tour.

It has been tough for him. His wife wanted a divorce and he has decided to agree to it. Sebastian spent the last 8 years mainly in Taiwan staying with the in-laws. Both Sebastian n wife are tour guide for Europe and they often have to travel. The son is placed with the in-laws to look after.

To me , Sebastian is a simple man. All he does is to earn money so that he could afford a comfortable life for his family. Of course, there's always disagreement between husband n wife but he usually give in.

The last few months, the wife gave him hell and he finally decided that he has enough. He agreed on the divorce.

Someone very close to me is going through similar situation. The wife has asked for a divorce because the husband had an affair. But the wife is going all the way out to accuse the husband of abuse on her and the children and also a threat to the in-law.She is trying to extort an exorbitant sum for alimony (I almost fainted when I heard of the amount). She was all out to 'destroy' him so that she could get as much as possible.

It's really sad to know all these. But, it shocking to hear the extent people go to to exhort as much as possible. Sebastian's wife said that Sebastian should give to the house a certain sum a year to raise the kid. Somehow, to me, it did not occur to her that the kid belongs to her as well! She also wanted Sebastian to pay for staying at her place for the last 8 years. But she forgot to remember that Sebastian paid for the Taiwan house!

For that someone close to me, the wife becomes someone I could not recognise anymore. She forgets that when she continues to try and squeeze every penny from him, the only person who gains is the lawyer. Ultimately, she will lose because she was not telling the truth, and the whole family ends up poorer because of the legal fees. She fell out with her best friends and also family, and at the end of this legal case..... she will lose herself.

Why?

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